What is it about?

This paper explores the impact of not becoming a father. 14 men aged between 49 and 82 were interviewed. There were many influences on why the men did not become a father and of high importance was their relationships. The men said they often felt like outsiders and were anxious about being seen as a threat.

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Why is it important?

My findings show that not becoming a father has consequences across a persons life. This work is important because there is little work on how men are affected by not achieving fatherhood - something that is seen as natural and easy. The majority of care for older people is given by their adult children. If you are older and do not have adult children who is going to help you with the small and large things when you need them?


I hope this article helps people understand that parenthood is very important to the vast majority of men. I always expected to be a dad and for a variety of reasons did not become. I was very moody about not becoming a dad and that is what made me look at this subject. I was shocked to find there is very little about men's feelings and thoughts about not being a father. I hope that you find this article interesting and gives you some insight into the often closed world of men's feelings.

Dr Robin A Hadley
Manchester Metropolitan University

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This page is a summary of: “I’m missing out and I think I have something to give”: experiences of older involuntarily childless men, Working with Older People, June 2018, Emerald,
DOI: 10.1108/wwop-09-2017-0025.
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