What is it about?

Becoming a parent is celebrated across all cultures and societies. There is much discussion around women and motherhood and not being a mother. Recently, there is an increased focus on fatherhood, fathering and being a father. However, there is little information on what happens if men who wanted and expected to be fathers do not not become one. There are after all, more childless men than childless women. This chapter examines the impact of unwanted childlessness on men who-wanted-to-be-dads and as they age, grandfathers.

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Why is it important?

My findings show that men who-wanted-to-be-dads are affected by not achieving fatherhood. In addition to a sense of loss the childless men are often stigmatised by family, friends and others. Moreover, childless men are not counted in population statistics. As a consequence they are excluded from health and care policy and practice.


I hope this chapter helps people, psychologists, counsellors and health professionals look at men differently. In particular to note that men are bothered and their mental and physical health can be affected by not becoming a father.

Dr Robin A Hadley
Manchester Metropolitan University

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This page is a summary of: Deconstructing Dad, January 2019, Springer Science + Business Media,
DOI: 10.1007/978-3-030-04384-1_3.
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